tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post1364344366958653602..comments2016-01-12T21:50:34.450-06:00Comments on Miss Stewart A.K.A. Mrs. Seaman: "The Boy" is Going Back to LAUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-78946256823102161012012-11-05T14:27:44.741-06:002012-11-05T14:27:44.741-06:00Wow - this one hits closer to home than I'd li...Wow - this one hits closer to home than I'd like... Except I'm the child that moved.<br /><br />I will say, we make the most of it... Now that my parents are retired, they spend a lot of time traveling to see us. And I take at least one trip a year to see them. I'm lucky that in the summer, they are only 3 hours away, so we can spend every other weekend, and to be honest - he sees my parents more often than my ILs who only live 45 mins away. <br /><br />And that is really what it is all about... Not spending every day, as that might get on a future DILs toes, regardless of what you wanted to do... But cherishing the time you do have with a relish that makes every moment quality... Even the moments just spent snuggling on a couch.ALIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07079095055493281932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-53974274466719945432012-10-28T20:49:04.278-05:002012-10-28T20:49:04.278-05:00Having my grandchildren grow up across the country...Having my grandchildren grow up across the country from me, I feel your pain. I am the only grandmother they have as my DIL 's mother died when she was very young. I had to decide that I was going to do whatever was necessary to stay close to them......so try not to worry, it really does all work out! And take heart, maybe he will marry someone with parents who live far away too! :). nancygraycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05288996419936475583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-49266420456583069332012-10-28T11:40:45.997-05:002012-10-28T11:40:45.997-05:00Kathy, thanks for your candor and your sharing. I...Kathy, thanks for your candor and your sharing. I feel better!Ellen aka Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17892924619560880572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-67731717101646566322012-10-28T11:34:26.506-05:002012-10-28T11:34:26.506-05:00Amy is in Burbank, CA, Matthew is in New York City...Amy is in Burbank, CA, Matthew is in New York City, and Bre is commuting to Chicago for school. Three children in our three major cities! I have to agree with Beth. As much as I want to encourage everyone to stay close to home, I can't. I love that you are acknowledging your feelings, Ellen. At times I say to myself, "I hate this!" I keep my mouth shut and move on. My grandparents lived in California and Arkansas most of my childhood and I loved, adored, and was very close to all of them. Distance doesn't diminish love. We let go. We let God, and trust that all will be as it should. I'll keep you in my prayers!Kathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-13490115921766825062012-10-28T09:14:58.104-05:002012-10-28T09:14:58.104-05:00I'm a looooong way from retirement!I'm a looooong way from retirement!Ellen aka Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17892924619560880572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-65584164415857951232012-10-28T09:14:36.837-05:002012-10-28T09:14:36.837-05:00I am very proud of him! I'm hoping he finds a...I am very proud of him! I'm hoping he finds a job there and thrives. But right now, it's all about me. I wanted to share that ugly in a vent in hopes of purging it from my system. Ellen aka Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17892924619560880572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-44724924270874758642012-10-28T08:34:18.205-05:002012-10-28T08:34:18.205-05:00Oh, my heart goes out to you, because I understand...Oh, my heart goes out to you, because I understand this from the other side. I'm the one who took the grandkids, literally right out of my mothers' home (which we both admit wasn't ideal) and moved them 600 miles away, so I understand your sorrow.<br /><br />That said, you can and will make it work. My mom has a GREAT relationship with my children, although with mine, their other grandparents are so hands off, there is no real competition. She is dealing with "competition" and local grandparents for the first time with my sister's pregnancy, but my sister called her the other day and asked her to come stay for the remainder of the school year after she goes back to take care of the baby...my sister is bereft over the idea of putting her infant in daycare, and yes, my BIL's parents are local, but my sister wants my mom...its a HUGE imposition, but if my mother wants to be involved, she can be (granted my parents are retired, so she actually CAN move down for a month)Sorta Southern Single Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14349718837546442408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-14192833759468164472012-10-28T08:13:43.755-05:002012-10-28T08:13:43.755-05:00Hard hard stuff...and I totally get it.. We are in...Hard hard stuff...and I totally get it.. We are in MN...and one daughter is in NYC and the other is in Arizona..I miss them like crazy...but they are realizing THEIR dreams and isn't that what life is about? I am anxiously looking forward to the next stage which will include grandchildren...and I will be the best grandma I can be from where ever they may be...make the best of it and be proud that Mac feels secure enough to move about! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16346233465756948090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-13199837476990959722012-10-28T07:56:12.720-05:002012-10-28T07:56:12.720-05:00Jane, you're right, I don't know what the ...Jane, you're right, I don't know what the future holds. But I do feel I need to begin to steel myself...Ellen aka Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17892924619560880572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-23636370524755743702012-10-28T01:20:21.433-05:002012-10-28T01:20:21.433-05:00Oh, Ellie, I know what you are feeling. I would b...Oh, Ellie, I know what you are feeling. I would be so bummed not to live near my grandbabies, let alone my daughter. Seriously, if they moved away from us, we would probably have to move too. I love that my grandson asks about me coming over every day. I love being such a part of his life. I can even manage to put in a zipper in a little blue dinosaur costume because he wants one. Don't despair yet. He may yet move back closer to you. You don't know what the future holds. You would also make an awesome long-distance grandma. With the internet and Skype, you can still read to them and talk and interact. :) Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08627928144398775810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182146706194091063.post-66867923742927358732012-10-27T23:04:21.514-05:002012-10-27T23:04:21.514-05:00Been there, cried there. In the end, she ended up ...Been there, cried there. In the end, she ended up moving with us and now I wonder if letting her go would have been best. I love having my daughter here, but she's also very unhappy here. Being a parent is hard.Daenel T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08864314251750387383noreply@blogger.com